Monday, August 2, 2010

Taking it a day at a time, living in the now

As far as possible, I take it a day at a time, living in the now.  Of course it is easier said than done as I note that, at times, there is a lot of anger and anxiety in me.  Anger arises when I identify with thoughts about how unfair life is, thoughts about why people do not listen to me.  I guess it is true what Dr Khatijah said, that I get depressed when things do not go my way.  The only difference is I feel like that mostly during the pre-menstrual period.  So is it more than a coping mechanism?  Is it due to being in the 40s and pre-menopause?  The doctors deny it but it seems reasonable to figure so.

Anyway, back to taking it a day at a time, living in the now, the catch is not getting caught up with the challenges in life.  So what if Jordan does not listen?  So what if the boys talk back?  So what if Derrick gets upset with me?  What is important is that I know what I am doing, that I have done my level best to be a wife and a mother.  What is important is that I enjoy what I am doing when I am able to enjoy it, despite having depression.  And if I get weepy or anxious, it is just a phase, a winter season that I am going through, because sooner or later, healing comes, the sun shines, the wind blows, the birds sing.